The data shows that chasing happiness can make people unhappy
A lack of having meaning in life according to research is a predictor of despair
Psychologists define happiness as a state of comfort and ease, feeling good in the moment
Studies show that people who have meaning in their lives are more resilient, they do better at school and at work, and they live longer
The four pillars of a meaningful life: 1. Belonging: comes from being in relationships where you’re valued for who you are intrinsically and where you value others as well 2. Purpose: Is less about what you want than about what you give, the key to purpose is using your strengths to serve others 3. Transcendence: transcendence states are those rare moments when you’re lifted above the hustle and bustle of daily life, your sense of self fades away, and you feel connected to a higher reality 4. Storytelling: The story you tell yourself about yourself
Now, finding your purpose is not the same thing as finding that job that
makes you happy. Purpose is less about what you want than about what you give
Transcendence states are those rare moments when you’re lifted above the hustle and bustle of daily life, your sense of self fades away, and you feel connected to a higher reality
First strategy of resilient people: They know that when tough times come suffering is part of every human existence and they know that suffering is a part of life, and knowing this stops you feeling discriminated against when the tough times come
Second strategy of resilient people: Resilient people are really good at choosing carefully where they select their attention, habit of realistically appraising situations and typically manage to focus on the things that they can change and somehow accept the things they can’t
Third strategy of resilient people: Resilient people ask themselves “Is what i’m doing helping or harming me?”, asking yourself whether what you’re doing, the way you’re thinking, the way you’re acting is helping or harming you, puts you back in the drivers seat. It gives you some control over your decision making
The fives stages of grief: 1. Anger 2. Bargaining 3. Denial 4. Depression 5. Acceptance
We sustain psychological injuries more or less the same as physical ones
The importance of practicing emotional hygiene
Chronic loneliness increase your likelihood of an early death by 14%
Loneliness can cause: high blood pressure, high cholesterol, suppressing functioning of immune system, long term risk to health
Having our default set of feelings and beliefs triggered may occur whenever encountering frustrations and setbacks
Rumination is one of unhealthiest and most common psychological habits
A two minute distraction to break the urge to ruminate in that moment is sufficient to break the urge to ruminate
When your mind tries to convince you that you are incapable of something and you believe it may cause you to begin to feel helpless, stop trying too soon or wont even try at all and more convinced of not succeeding
Kristin’s definition of self-esteem: Global evaluation of self worth
One of the problems with self-esteem is that in order to have it we need to be special and above average
The unhealthy dynamic of self-esteem is we are constantly comparing each other
Kristin’s definition of self-compassion: Self-compassion is the perfect alternative to self-esteem because it’s a way to feel good about ourselves that isn’t contingent and doesn’t require being better than others or being perfect
The three components of self-compassion: 1.Mindfulness 2.Common humanity 3.Kindness
What mindfulness does for our struggle: Helps us become aware that we’re struggling
The difference between self-compassion and self-pity: Recognition of common humanity
One of the strengths of self compassion gives you is it makes you less afraid of: Failure
Four realities about self-compassion: 1.Source or strength and resilience 2.Increases motivation 3.Leads to healthier behaviors 4.It enhances interpersonal relationships
Full credits also to Happiness & its causes (Happy & Well).
To address some misconceptions of stage hypnosis i.e. the ‘Elephant in the Room’ in the context of Hypnotherapy, as you may know ‘trust’ is a key factor in successful relationship including therapeutic relationships, often than not the word or images of ‘stage hypnosis’ may conjure or cause certain associations or misconceptions whether gained through media or movies etc of manipulation, mind control or the hypnotist imposing their will on people, this however is not the case in the context of ‘stage hypnosis’ though it may temporarily appear to be this way. Participants of Stage Hypnosis cannot be forced to do anything against their will nor do things to breach their sense of values.
Some takeaways:
Participants of self-hypnosis for temporary entertainment or ‘stage hypnosis’ are preselected prior to the commencement of the entertainment aspect of entertainment process
You cannot become stuck in self-hypnosis from stage hypnosis, nor mind controlled, participants are not asleep though they may appear to be, they can hear everything that is said to them
A demonstration of the power of focused attention (self-hypnosis) in the context of application of hypnotherapy or strategically guided meditation
The great potential to influence the subconscious (unconscious / nonconscious) mind in the direction for longer term outcomes you desire, especially when utilized in a therapeutic context such as strategic or clinical hypnotherapy or self-hypnosis
The contrasting differences between self-hypnosis for therapeutic benefits and outcomes, and self-hypnosis for entertainment
Our central nervous system controls the autonomic nervous system which is the system that makes up the parasympathetic and the sympathetic the sympathetic system is our fight-or-flight system when our body’s under stress
The parasympathetic system is a system that causes nothing but relaxation tranquillity that’s where we want to be
There’s a technique called paced breathing paced breathing is a technique that we’re going to breathe through our nose as we breathe through our nose for five seconds we’re going to let it out for about ten to fifteen seconds out of our mouth
As we let the breath out we’re going to be saying something each breath to get our mind to concentrate on what we’re saying to distract our mind-body connection you ever notice that the more you think about something and maybe you’re paying your ailment the fear the stress the condition always seems to get worse:
Breath in through the nose for Five Seconds
Exhale through the mouth for ten to fifteen seconds saying O-U-MMMMMMM-AAA (See Video For Demonstration)
