75% of people’s longevity in Villagrande accounted for lifestyle
Now Social Isolation is the public health risk of our time
Susan discovered that people of longevity are always surrounded by extended family, by friends, by neighbours. They are never left to live solitary lives
According to to Julianne Holt-Lunstad at Brigham Young University, the top powerful predictor to keep people staying alive is social integration
Face to face contact releases a whole cascade of neurotransmitters including oxytocin that can foster trust, reduce stress, kill pain, and induce pleasure
Well being sciences study why happy people are happy, why healthy people are healthy and why successful people are successful
We don’t all define happiness the same way
A meta-analysis (like an analysis of many studies) was conducted so we looking at 225 studies on happiness and what was found was that happy people are more productive and work and more creative, make more money and have superior jobs, are better leaders and negotiators, have stronger immune systems, are physically healthier, live longer, show more resilience to stress and trauma
Full credits also to Happiness & its causes (Happy & Well).
Intuition is knowing something without knowing why it is getting it’s the journey from A to Z without stopping to all the letters on the way it’s coming to a conclusion quickly without necessarily taking the time at that moment to assess why you came to that conclusion and you can think of it as like seeing the image before all the pieces of the puzzle are in place you figure out what it is
like every creature in nature we are designed to protect ourselves from danger and intuition is the primary resource that we use for protecting ourselves from danger and most people don’t make that connection between intuition and safety
The resource that we use most frequently in Western life in Western cultures is logic
The reality is that logic is plotting and unoriginal and far too slow to be useful in an emergency because it’s slow to accept reality and it’s burdened by judgment and logic spends valuable time thinking about the way things ought to be or used to be or could be or might be and in nature an animal doesn’t spend any time doing any of that an animal threatened by another animal does not use logic it uses intuition entirely it responds either by intuition or by instinct, the difference is that instinct is inbred it is inherent in the animal
Gavin indicates In the context of animals you cannot imagine an antelope in Africa that sees the lion or hears the breaking twigs in the brush in the night and turns with fear and then says oh it’s probably nothing but human beings do that every day right we undermine our own intuitive signals and and yet we do know that there is a universal code of violence that we understand meaning we know when someone is likely to be a predator we’ve exchanged a whole series of signals with that person that’s been refined over millions of years messages messages flying back between you and that person that tell you that they’re not dangerous to you right now and those messages when they fly back and forth between you and another person, and say wait a minute this is a problem, in the context you’re in a vulnerable situation and you feel that fear response those messages are absolutely brilliant
Shauna could see and understand in her process was these thoughts that were ravishing her head and her body, these thoughts that were dark and depressive and whispered of no future, these thoughts were coming from this emotional wound or core wound in her body, it wasn’t the other way around it wasn’t that Shauna was having these thoughts and having these feelings
It was the other way around it was that her feelings of the core wound(s) in her body were screaming, shouting and begging for her to have a look and the thoughts and the story and the detail that it was bringing out was only a reflection of what she felt, and what was important to notice that was that Shauna could see that it was coming from her wound (emotional) not the other way around and Shauna could also see that because she tried to change every thought or negative though by putting a new spin on it and hoping it would go away however Shauna experienced it would just come back in a different form
This emotional pain Shauna had in her body had a home, it had a shape, it had a colour
By definition post-traumatic stress is an anxiety disorder that develops in reaction to a physical injury or a severe mental or emotional distress
All you have to do is look on your cell phone open up a paper, turn on the news and there’s millions of different types of ways post-traumatic stress can be evoked but there’s a fairly new one and it’s happening to our young people it’s called cyber bullying and cyber bullying for a young mind puts them into that mental and emotional distress
Post-traumatic stress by a neurological standpoint is not a disorder it’s a reordering of your neural networks and pathways and your sensory pathways so that you can survive in a really dangerous situation
Opium, an extract of the poppy in question, can both induce pleasure and reduce pain. Though opium has remained in use ever since, it wasn’t until the 19th century that one of its chemical compounds, morphine, was identified and isolated for medical use
Morphine, codeine, and other substances made directly from the poppy are called opiates
In the 20th century, drug companies created a slew of synthetic substances similar to these opiates, including heroin, hydrocodone, oxycodone, and fentanyl
Synthetic or natural, legal or illicit, opioid drugs are very effective painkillers, but they are also highly addictive. In the 1980s and 90s, pharmaceutical companies began to market opioid painkillers aggressively, actively downplaying their addictive potential to both the medical community and the public.
The number of opioid painkillers prescriptions skyrocketed, and so did cases of opioid addiction, beginning a crisis that continues today
Each of these drugs has slightly different chemistry, but all act on the body’s opioid system by binding to opioid receptors in the brain.
The body’s endorphins temper pain signals by binding to these receptors, and opioid drugs bind much more strongly, for longer
Shame needs three things to grow exponentially in our lives 1. Secrecy 2. Silence and 3. Judgement
Exponential grow of shame can shape shape everything from the way you think the way you think about yourself the way you and the choices you make – Oprah.
Brené defines vulnerability as emotional risk, exposure, uncertainty, it fuels our daily lives
Has come to the belief upon 12th year of doing this research that – vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of courage
As a vulnerability researcher believes we have to talk about shame
A quote that saved her this year by Theodore Roosevelt:
“It is not the critic who counts. It is not the man who sits and points out how the doer of deeds could have done things better and how he falls and stumbles. The credit goes to the man in the arena whose face is marred with dust and blood and sweat. But when he’s in the arena, at best, he wins, and at worst, he loses, but when he fails, when he loses, he does so daring greatly.”
Shame drives two big tapes 1 “Never good enough” 2 “Who do you think you are”
Shame is a focus on self, guilt is a focus on behaviour
Shame is saying things like for example ‘I am bad’, Guilt is saying things like for example ‘I did something bad’
Shame is highly correlated with addiction, depression, violence, aggression, bullying, suicide, eating disorders and Guilt is inversely correlated with those things
The key is creating an awareness that leads to some action that leads to change
Mental Toughness: “The ability to perform at or near your personal best, on a consistent basis, regardless of the circumstances”
“What you “see” in you mind’s eye prior to any performance situation, throughout the day and over weeks and months, tends to become who you are”
“The is no wealth to be found in an idea. There is only wealth to be had from acting on an idea”
“Your every action is either an anchor on your tail or it’s the wind in your sails” – Joe Charbonneau
Part of change whether it’s in therapy, whether it’s a coaching situation, whether it’s in a training all these begins with awareness
Make your tolerations list as long as you need to make it. Tell yourself, “I’m longer going to tolerate anything that holds me back.” Then part of deciding what you want and then having a tolerations list is begin to say you know what is my plan of action? What is my focused plan of action?
Focused Plan of Action – 3 Steps: 1. Create a Dream List (Outcome Goals) “What do you want to achieve?” 2. Write Down Your Goals (Process Goals) “Be Specific” 3. Develop a Plan of Action (Practice Goals) “Set a target date for attainment” and “Identify Obstacles”
“The greatest single characteristic of those who achieve their goals is the “simple belief that you can do it” Dr. Charles Garfield
Any book, any study, any research you read especially in performance psychology, sports psychology we’ll talk about, the key to success to being a high achiever, is quieting that voice and getting into that zone. Being able to say you know, “I can do this” and slowing it down
1. Practice Focused Present Breathing, the best way to practice this is to picture it like a balloon in your stomach and you are filling up the balloon in your stomach. What you are really doing is you’re feeling your lower lungs and you’re getting a deep slow, deep full breath. 2 Monitor Your Self-Talk 3. Practice Thought-Stopping 4. Listen for the ‘What ifs?’ (words associated with anxiety) and exchange with ‘So What’ 5. Rewrite Your Internal Dialogue
E + R = O [Event + Response = Outcome] by Jack Canfield
Full credits also to CalSouthern Psychology (Californian Southern University School of Behavioural Sciences).
